11 yrs ago, if you had asked me where the 2019 me would be, I would've predicted that I’d be single by choice, expanding my clothing line, and living in LA. I was a week away from moving to Arizona, w/ my job relocation locked in, my belongings packed up and ready to go. I had met Cale some weeks earlier. Didn’t think much of it b/c it wasn't going to go anywhere, right? I had to play it cool.
My bestie, Cass reminded me about the importance of playing hard to get with the 2 hr text back rule. But deep down inside, I was becoming a sucker for all the things I said I would not get caught up in, or at least…do too soon.
That scene from Marvelous Mrs. Maisel where Miriam quietly gets up from bed w/o waking up her husband to put on her full face of makeup then gets right back into bed before he wakes up… Yes, as ridiculous as that is, I could relate. I forget about the circumstances that had me w/o makeup, but in the most sincere tone, he told me that I was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen and that he couldn’t really see himself w/ anyone else, ever again. Pretty deep. I turned to mush right there on the spot, no playing it cool from that moment on.
I did ask myself one question, was canceling my move to Arizona and starting this relationship w/ Cale worth it? Ab.So.Effing.Lutely YES.
Fast fwd to many years later, here we are. Messy hair mornings, no make at home, graying, growing beards, giving up tacky party attire and trading it in for the outdoors w/ drawstring bucket hats and weekends filled w/ terrible to mediocre online crock pot recipes. There's noone else I'd rather share these moments w/. Noone else who makes me laugh and smile harder (I’m talking full on teeth showing), noone else whom I’d rather have ongoing debates, pop culture and music trivia challenges w/, and share all the joy and pain that comes w/ life than w/ him. I’ve grown to be a better person b/c of him.
Kids, the takeaway here is, do what feels undeniably right. It could end up being the best thing you’ve ever done. We're coming up on our 8th wedding anniversary tomorrow, celebrating w/ 3 weeks in Portugal soon. (Ceremony pic of us changing our FB status to "married".)👰🤵💻